Notes, Questions, and To-Dos: The Art of Elegant Conversation


Back to civilization. That’s what went through my mind for a year that caused so much tension and division in our country, our communities, and even our own families. I wanted to take some time to focus on the basics of polite society, as kindness, inclusion, community, and – yes – are so important in keeping a society both civil and thriving. As kids head back to school and adults speed up our social calendars, we think August is the perfect time to do just that. That’s why we’re excited to launch our series: Ps, Qs and What To Do!

All month long, we’ll be polishing the basics of etiquette in social, digital and beyond. We need your help to encourage kindness, so please share our posts on your Facebook feed, stories, email to your friends and anywhere else! As we said from the beginning, most people want to do and say the right thing, but often need some guidance in the details. DoSayGive is happy to assist you!

The Dos and Don’ts of Conversation

Most of us haven’t had a typical social schedule over the past year, so there’s a good chance we don’t get some practice when it comes to chatting. There’s a reason why “gab gift” and “chatter art” are common phrases – they are truly true gifts and art forms (not to mention stressful if you don’t have practice!). If you find yourself at an event, party or dinner, jot down a few of these dos and don’ts to help any conversation flow naturally.

Conversation “What To Do”

Give your undivided attention by looking people in the eyes. Act like you’re interested. Smile and nod.

Ask interesting questions and provide cool topics.

Maintain NATURAL speech rhythm.

TRUE involve others in the conversation. (If you see someone on the periphery, invite them to chat. See below for ideas.)

Talk “Don’ts”

Don’t look at your phone or a more interesting person to talk to.

Don’t monopolize the conversation with stories about yourself or your kids.

DO NOT bring up divisive topics (eg politics, religion, vaccines).

DO NOT be an omniscient or humble braggart.

How to Make Promotions

How to Introduce Two People

Add the following for a smooth introduction:

  • how do you know each other
  • A link or conversation starter
  • Surnames (and youelders, doctors, judges, elected officials, etc. names used for

Example: “Jennifer, I want you to meet Carey Smith. She and I went to college together. Carey, this is Jennifer Flores, I think her kids are going to the same summer camp!”

how do you introduce yourself

Give your first and last name. Make a reference point.

Hello there! My name is Lee Cordon. I live down the street and thought of coming here and introducing myself!

I’m not sure if we’ve met before. I am Francie Smith. We recently moved here from California.

Forgive me for not introducing myself earlier, I’m Anna Garcia. My daughter loves being on the same team as your son.

What to Do When You Forget Someone’s Name

Tip 1: Introduce someone you know first!

Do you know Marjorie Smith? He is my friend from university. (And we hope the other person introduces themselves after this!)

Tip 2: Re-introduce yourself.

Hello there! I am Leslie Jones. We met at this conference last year.

Tip #3: Apologize and just ask!

I’m so sorry, your name has been erased from my memory, but I know our girls were in the same kindergarten last year.

I know I know your name but I’m having a mental block right now! Blame it on late nights with the baby!

Tip #4: Ask them to put their email or phone number on your phone.

I keep getting your phone number! Can you put it on my phone so I can text you?

Tip #5: Ask them for a business card.

Tip #6: Ask a friend.

Conversation Starter Ideas

A skilled chatter sometimes has to try 2-3 chat starters to see what clicks with the other person. So don’t give up if the conversation drifts at first! Here are some ideas to keep in your back pocket:

“How are your boys?”

“Did you go anywhere this summer?”

“Are you still in the same company?”

“Have you tried the new restaurant downtown?”

“Which teacher did your daughter take?”

“Have you seen anything good on Netflix? We finished a new series last night…”

“Where did you find this cute necklace?”

Do you have any speaking tips to add? Please share below!

We look forward to sharing our next topic in this series next week. Don’t forget to subscribe to DoSayGive emails so you don’t miss out! And please share this helpful post on social media!



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